The sad truth is that I don’t think I have ever met someone who is completely, 100% happy with the way they look. We all have things about ourselves that we would like to change, flaws we wish we could erase and imperfections that seem to mock us when we look in the mirror.  

We see pretty girls (and guys) on the street and models in magazines and want to look just like them.  It doesn’t seem fair that we look the way we do, and yet others are so beautiful. 

Upon further inspection, things aren’t so clear-cut; beauty is not black and white. Even celebrities, who are often considered sex symbols and icons of beauty, all look different from one another.  So who decides what is beautiful?  Who is allowed to tell you that you’re unattractive or not good enough?  What makes you believe them?

This blog is all about rejecting societal norms and living life the way you decide it should be lived.  It’s about discovering why we think the way we do, and learning how to escape harmful feelings and how to STOP putting ourselves down.

It’s about creating a community where YOU feel safe and welcome.  You belong here.  You may feel ugly, overweight, worthless and misunderstood.  You are not alone. 

What makes me qualified to talk about this?

I know exactly how you feel. I’ve had body dysmorphic disorder (BDD) for the past seven years and I understand how hard it is to love and accept yourself sometimes.

Even before my diagnosis, I was desperately searching for somewhere I could belong and someone who would understand what I was dealing with.  Once my disorder had a name, I went looking specifically for BDD blogs and forums.  In all of my searching, I found very little that helped me.  I continued to feel lonely and lost.

I don’t want anyone else to feel the way I did.  This is your safe space.  You’ve found it.  Welcome :)

I am lucky to now be on the path to recovery, as I am currently receiving specialized treatment for my disorder.  I am FIGHTING to break through and live the life I’ve always dreamed of.  I am a firm believer that things do get better, that happiness and health will someday be more important than the reflection in the mirror, and that figuring out who you are (and figuratively punching haters in the face) is the only way to truly live.  I’ll get there.  You will too.

What do you think?

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